We need to be able to limit the negativity, wherever it’s coming from: influences, friends, listening to music or watching television, dealing with neighbors – whatever is affecting us. We don’t always see it. We don’t always realize that when we get together with our friends, maybe they don’t do anything but gossip. Well, there’s nothing positive about that; that’s just negative, right? It might feel good at that moment but it does affect you later, right? When we get together, we want to be able to build and lift each other up. But so much of this world is geared towards that negativity. So find ways to be positive, to give back positive to your kids, to give back positively to your spouse. It’s incredibly challenging at times, but when we do that, positivity allows us the option to make better choices. We feel confident in them because we feel better physically and we don’t feel as depressed. Depression plays a huge impact.

So now we have to find and work a little bit harder to find ways. Before, it was easy: Our kids just went and played sports. Maybe once a week you tell the kids, We’re going to the park, We’re playing frisbee golf, We’re going to take the dog and go for a run by the river. They’re coming alongside, they’re exercising, and they’re connecting with you in a positive way; they’re creating memories. They’re creating situations that enable them to make better choices because they feel good about themselves. They feel loved, they feel secure. And in doing so, when they make a decision, they can feel confident in it.

Now it’s not going to 100% get rid of all of your second guessing.